A few weeks ago, before we left France for good, Thomas and I sat down for a drink and a chat. We had been planning our new life for weeks, thinking about our next projects (both professional and personal) and evaluating the costs and feasibility of each thing.
As I write these words, I can’t help but congratulate ourselves, because being reasonable and forward thinking hasn’t always been our thing (OK for full disclosure, really not our thing!) That night, we felt a sense of accomplishment for having made a realistic, exciting and concrete plan for the next five years. A five-year plan (sounds so serious when you put it that way!) Hard to believe, no? Well, for us it is :).
Anyways, once we were done dreaming up the plan, we took a step back to consider it and that’s when it hit us: we realized that our priorities, desires and needs had completely shifted.
Reflecting on our history, I realize that we often invested in projects that we didn’t enjoy enough because they proved to be burdensome – both financially and in terms of mental load. But instead of being oriented around things and places (i.e., possessions), our new plan is based on experiences, which we will remember forever.
Frankly, this warmed my heart.
Because in theory, we can say that we prefer to experience things with those we love, but our actions don’t always follow.
Because in practice, we often let ourselves get overwhelmed by the need to take care of our things or to pay for them… And there is not much time or money left for experiences!
Because despite all our good will, Thomas and I have found that the last 10 years of our lives have been spent growing our mini-empire, using our possessions as leverage to get more.
More things, bigger things, more expensive things!
And now, at the dawn of a new life on our old continent, all our choices point in the same direction.
Less stuff, more freedom, fewer expenses…
A simpler life with the means to truly enjoy it. A life with a deeply lightened mental load.
I suspect that simply having a five-year plan on paper won’t be enough to change the way we are and act on a daily basis, but I still feel that it marks a significant shift in the way we approach life and experiences.
As we embark on this new journey, I’m curious… Have you experienced this kind of transition, this realization? Do you aspire to simplify, lighten or transform your way of life? If so, let’s chat!